88. Why Willpower Won't Make You Lose Weight (And What Will)

In this episode of Weight Loss Made Simple, Dr. Stacy Heimburger uncovers the myth of willpower and why it’s not the answer to sustainable weight loss. She explains the science behind habit loops, how GLP-1 medications can help dampen urges, and the importance of recognizing triggers and changing your response. Tune in to learn how awareness, mindset shifts, and creating space in your urge-reward cycle can help you break free from the struggle and create lasting weight loss success.

Show Notes:

• The myth of willpower and why it's not the key to weight loss.
• How habit loops impact our cravings and eating habits.
• GLP-1 medications: How they help dampen urges but aren't a magic fix.
• Why awareness and mindfulness are crucial for sustainable weight loss.
• Practical tips for breaking the urge-reward cycle and responding differently to triggers.

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Transcript

Hey everybody, welcome back to Weight Loss Made Simple. I’m your host, Dr. Stacy Heimburger. I want to talk about something that comes up a lot, and it’s this idea of willpower. There are a lot of people who call me, maybe they want to start the weight loss medications, the GLP-1s, or maybe they just want to get into coaching, and there’s this myth that willpower is the cornerstone—that if we don’t have willpower, we aren’t going to lose weight. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “I just need more willpower,” then this is the episode for you. I want to explain why willpower is not only not the magic bullet, but in some ways, it’s almost a guarantee that you won’t be successful. Willpower is seen as the ultimate goal, and we’re told, "Just white-knuckle through, stay disciplined—that’s how you get results." But willpower is a finite resource, and it can really lead to burnout and failure because willpower does not last.

Sustainable weight loss comes when we figure out why we think we need willpower. So, if I’m doing something during the day and I’m super stressed out, and I crave or have an urge to eat something sugary or comforting, and I think, “My willpower is waning,” yes, willpower does wane because it’s a finite resource. But the more important thing to figure out is why I’m feeling that urge. Why am I feeling that desire—this over-desire for something sweet or comforting? And that’s the key to sustainable weight loss. It’s figuring out why we need this. Why is my brain calling for this food? Why is my brain calling out for sugar?

So, we get in these habit loops where there’s a cue and a routine. Okay, so we have an urge-reward loop. When we understand and can identify this, we should see it as a big blinking light of opportunity. This is where we find the chance to figure out what’s going on for us. Why am I having this urge? Why am I having this over-desire?

If we can figure out what’s triggering that urge, then we can start doing the real work. So, how do GLP-1s work with this? Well, the GLP-1 isn’t going to stop the trigger. It’s not going to stop the urge, and it’s not going to stop our reward. What it does is interrupt the cycle at the urge. It just makes it less intense. So, if we’re still getting stressed out with Susie at work and coming home and wanting a drink at night, this medicine is not going to fix that. The medicine is just going to make it easier to say, “I don’t want the drink that much.” Our brain is still triggered, and it’s still going to throw up the urge or desire. But it’s dampened. It’s not as strong.

That’s where these medicines can be super helpful if you’re willing to do the work behind it. Meaning, Susie has made me mad at work (which nobody makes us mad, but we’ll go with that). I’ve had some trigger, I have an urge, and I’ve trained myself to reward it. If it’s dampening that urge response and I’m aware, it’s easier to say, “I don’t want it.” That’s when I can ask, “What’s going on for me? What is happening? Why am I triggered? What can I do differently?”

When we start understanding these urges, we can recognize the pattern. The meds give us the space to break that loop. If we don’t do the work behind it, it won’t be sustainable. The medicine is not magic—it is simply a tool. So, we need to be aware, and start doing the work.

Willpower isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. If I’m thinking I’m supposed to be strong and have enough willpower and then I don’t—there’s guilt. There’s shame. Then, I start doing things like tough-love myself. If we work out our models—thoughts, feelings, actions—if I’m saying terrible things to myself, I’m not going to have good feelings, and my actions won’t be positive.

When I have a thought like, “I’m too weak to do this,” the actions I take will just reinforce that thought. That’s how the model works. We need to create a space to recognize the urges and learn new ways to respond.

This is the pattern. Finding space between the trigger and the urge. What is going on for me? Why am I triggered? How can I change my mindset? What different thoughts do I need to have? How can I satisfy the underlying need without food? That’s the work.

This can be done without these medications, but the meds give us more space. They make it easier to recognize the urge. Without awareness, nothing changes. We need mindfulness, intention, and some work. Journaling, talking to a coach, looking for online resources—it all helps. The meds won’t work forever if we don’t do the work behind them.

So, willpower is a finite resource and not the key to sustainable weight loss. Urge, reward, loop—this cycle needs to change. Recognizing where you are in the cycle and creating space to respond differently is key to lasting change.